Recently, I am facing several unexpected rejections from people around me. These people are not unfamiliar to me, they are co-workers, colleagues, but still it is happening. I along with another person was trying to host a summer BBQ. The BBQ event is generally fun during the summer time, and most people do it here. But, these people we invited could not make time for the event. Their causes might be legitimate, or might stem from a sabotaging mentality, I do not know. May be, they have some other emergencies that need to be taken care of. But yes, when you live in a community, you generally share a common interest, and you sometimes make time for other people. For example, why do you visit other people's home? Its a formality, bond making, and a part of socialization. So, when you get rejected from people you know, you feel betrayed, and a sense of anger takes place in your mind on those people. You like to think that you will reject their next invitation, and take the revenge given the chance that the next invitation might or might not come at all.
Anyway, this is a temporary feeling, and people generally move on. People come and go from your life, and only a few will remain. We have this herd mentality, and believe in numbers rather than strength of the individuals. So, we feel content when we have a larger group. But, a pack of wolves is much stronger than a herd of sheep. Right now, we are going to the BBQ with 6 people which is good, but it could have been bigger. But yeah, it is what it is.
Handling rejection is not easy if you have not come from a background of tolerance. So, when dealing with the people, these tolerance and mutual respect are very essential. They can build good social relationships, and lack thereof can destroy them as well. But, red flag these people for their next encounter, and deal with them carefully.
Lastly, I am feeling happy that BBQ is still happening, and we did not totally fail. Actually, some people who rejected were probably wanting us to fail. We cannot let that happen! We are made for success, and failure is just a step towards it.
Happy summer!
Anyway, this is a temporary feeling, and people generally move on. People come and go from your life, and only a few will remain. We have this herd mentality, and believe in numbers rather than strength of the individuals. So, we feel content when we have a larger group. But, a pack of wolves is much stronger than a herd of sheep. Right now, we are going to the BBQ with 6 people which is good, but it could have been bigger. But yeah, it is what it is.
Handling rejection is not easy if you have not come from a background of tolerance. So, when dealing with the people, these tolerance and mutual respect are very essential. They can build good social relationships, and lack thereof can destroy them as well. But, red flag these people for their next encounter, and deal with them carefully.
Lastly, I am feeling happy that BBQ is still happening, and we did not totally fail. Actually, some people who rejected were probably wanting us to fail. We cannot let that happen! We are made for success, and failure is just a step towards it.
Happy summer!
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